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[turps]

Happy birthday to dine who has been a constant in my online world for a very long time, and does a fabulous job of serving my animal photo needs. And more than that is a fabulous person overall, too. Hope it's a great day.

Yesterday Lucy's sister came on the group chat and announced the place we're going for the high tea after the wedding. It sounds good with safety measures in place. Except she then said I needed to start writing my speech as her mam -- the other witness -- was doing hers this week and just, a speech? Anyone who has ever met me in person will know I'm not a speech person at all, hell, more than a few people and I tend to turn mute.

I could write a speech easily, but saying it? Just thinking about it makes me need a lie-down.

Saying all that though, the wedding is less than a fortnight away so the high tea may be cancelled anyway depending on the announcement tomorrow. I hope not, even if it would get me out of the speech.

Comments

[wenchpixie]

The one good thing about wedding speeches is that they're perfectly acceptable when they're very, very short, and say something loving and lovely about the couple.

[turps]

The one good thing about wedding speeches is that they're perfectly acceptable when they're very, very short, and say something loving and lovely about the couple.

I'm sure short will be the way I go when the wedding eventually happens.

Thank you.

[dine]

thank you for the birthday wishes!

I think you can write a good, short speech that covers the important stuff - how wonderful it is the couple found each other (and love) and convey your wishes they enjoy a long and happy life together. and then you stand up and be sincere, before collapsing into your chair and having a drink (important - speech first, drinks later)

[turps]

You're welcome for the birthday wishes. You should be celebrated always.

nd then you stand up and be sincere, before collapsing into your chair and having a drink (important - speech first, drinks later)

Thank you for the speech advise, especially the drinking! I'm keeping it all in mind for when the wedding happens.

[turlough]

Ack! Maybe you can get away with a really, really short speech? Just congratulating them and wishing them many happy years, something like that. Lots of good luck in any case! *sends lots of encouraging and articulate thoughts*

[turps]

Well, as you know the wedding has been postponed, but I'll keep your advice in mind for when it happens.

Something really short will be the way to go I think.

[frausorge]

Good luck with the speech! I'm sure you will have a most welcoming and forgiving audience - thinking of them that way sometimes helps me.

[turps]

As you know the wedding was cancelled, but, I'll keep your good wishes in mind for when it happens, and your advice!

[ephemera]

I hope the wedding isn't further constrained by the lockdown stuff - even if that means you have to make a small speech - would it help to mentally reframe it as offering a toast to the happy couple? Short, and focused on how great it is that they've found each other, and here's to many happy years to come ...

[turps]

Well, it wasn't lockdown that affect the wedding but Corona itself. The high tea still could have gone ahead apparently, though it shows just how confusing the tiers are when I can't go into any one else's house yet can go into a restaurant with 13 other people having a meet up.

That is great advice about re framing the speech to a toast, and advice I'll hang onto for when the wedding is rescheduled.

Thank you!

[brandywine28]

If you absolutely can't get out of giving a speech, just keep it short and straight to the point. There's no need to go on and on; your sister knows how much you love her!

[turps]

just keep it short and straight to the point. There's no need to go on and on; your sister knows how much you love her!

That is true, and something I'll remember for when the wedding goes ahead.

Thank you <3

[cesy]

Writing a speech and getting someone else to read it can also be acceptable - my brother-in-law did that at my sister's wedding, he wrote it and she read it out because he hates public speaking about feelings. It was really cute.

[turps]

Writing a speech and getting someone else to read it can also be acceptable - my brother-in-law did that at my sister's wedding, he wrote it and she read it out because he hates public speaking about feelings.

You know, I was thinking about doing that and getting James to speak allowed because public speaking doesn't bother him at all. I'm glad it's seen as acceptable.

Thank you.