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Aug. 4th, 2018 11:03 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsI've been on such a big Bucky/Clint kick lately. A while back dine linked to a story where they were the main pairing, and ever since I've been reading nothing but that writer. I don't know how popular the pairing actually is, though. I'm going to be sad if I finish all the stories and there's scant pickings elsewhere.
Back to the grim real world. Closing down all of mam's accounts is still ongoing. Most companies are great, sympathetic and while some have asked for copies of the death certificate, I can understand why they need it, and they asked in a nice way; but her care bill. Some of you may remember she had a huge fight about that. They wouldn't let her out of hospital without agreeing to carers four times a day. They were pretty much useless and while they were free at the time, as soon as she got her disability money back she was landed with a bill of over 2k, and they hounded her for that money. It went on for months, she was phoned, letters sent, and in the end threatened with prison. Then they suggested James would be in trouble too as he'd been speaking on her behalf, and only then did she agree to put a payment plan in place. Well, a three way payment plan as Kayleigh and me were paying a third each, not that they knew that. Only one payment was made before mam died, and last week the council ( who arranged the care ) phoned me. They didn't offer condolences, which I know mean little, but surely that's just a basic thing? Then said they wanted copies of mam's closing bank accounts and the funeral bill, and if they got that they could maybe shut down the bill. I mean, what? Mam's dead, she has no estate, where the hell do they think they're going to get that money? Not from us that's for sure. Mam was ill with very little mental and physical reserves for a fight, we're not. So fuck them; seriously.
In the last week I also had to go to the hospital for a physio assessment. I've damaged my rotor cuff of my shoulder somehow, so now have daily exercises to do to sort that out. I went on the bus for that, which I intend to do more often. Though, to go nice places like the beach, not the hospital. We also had a birthday dinner out for my brother and went with Kayleigh and Shauna to the theatre to see a comedy hypnotist. Getting out is something we're very much doing on purpose. Mam's house was always the gathering place, we may have lost her but I'm not losing my sibs, too.
When we got mam's ashes back she was mainly in a big scatter tube for scattering purposes, but we also paid for three tiny urns filled with ash to keep and three bags in case we wanted to put them in jewellery etc. I got some of mine made into a bead, and that came yesterday. While I didn't have any ash from nanna or dad I bought two beads to represent them, and now all three will be close to me always. You can see those here.
And I sent away for my driving licence and have some L plates ready for when it comes.
Next week I'm at the eye infirmary to sort out my stupid twitching eye. I'm getting a botex injection to calm down the nerve, not sure if that'll happen on Monday or just to see the person doing it first for a check-up, then Tuesday we're off to a safari park with Kayleigh and Shauna, and Thursday it's finally my lympth appointment. Busy busy is the way to go.
dine linked to a story where they were the main pairing, and ever since I've been reading nothing but that writer. I don't know how popular the pairing actually is, though. I'm going to be sad if I finish all the stories and there's scant pickings elsewhere.Back to the grim real world. Closing down all of mam's accounts is still ongoing. Most companies are great, sympathetic and while some have asked for copies of the death certificate, I can understand why they need it, and they asked in a nice way; but her care bill. Some of you may remember she had a huge fight about that. They wouldn't let her out of hospital without agreeing to carers four times a day. They were pretty much useless and while they were free at the time, as soon as she got her disability money back she was landed with a bill of over 2k, and they hounded her for that money. It went on for months, she was phoned, letters sent, and in the end threatened with prison. Then they suggested James would be in trouble too as he'd been speaking on her behalf, and only then did she agree to put a payment plan in place. Well, a three way payment plan as Kayleigh and me were paying a third each, not that they knew that. Only one payment was made before mam died, and last week the council ( who arranged the care ) phoned me. They didn't offer condolences, which I know mean little, but surely that's just a basic thing? Then said they wanted copies of mam's closing bank accounts and the funeral bill, and if they got that they could maybe shut down the bill. I mean, what? Mam's dead, she has no estate, where the hell do they think they're going to get that money? Not from us that's for sure. Mam was ill with very little mental and physical reserves for a fight, we're not. So fuck them; seriously.
In the last week I also had to go to the hospital for a physio assessment. I've damaged my rotor cuff of my shoulder somehow, so now have daily exercises to do to sort that out. I went on the bus for that, which I intend to do more often. Though, to go nice places like the beach, not the hospital. We also had a birthday dinner out for my brother and went with Kayleigh and Shauna to the theatre to see a comedy hypnotist. Getting out is something we're very much doing on purpose. Mam's house was always the gathering place, we may have lost her but I'm not losing my sibs, too.
When we got mam's ashes back she was mainly in a big scatter tube for scattering purposes, but we also paid for three tiny urns filled with ash to keep and three bags in case we wanted to put them in jewellery etc. I got some of mine made into a bead, and that came yesterday. While I didn't have any ash from nanna or dad I bought two beads to represent them, and now all three will be close to me always. You can see those here.
And I sent away for my driving licence and have some L plates ready for when it comes.
Next week I'm at the eye infirmary to sort out my stupid twitching eye. I'm getting a botex injection to calm down the nerve, not sure if that'll happen on Monday or just to see the person doing it first for a check-up, then Tuesday we're off to a safari park with Kayleigh and Shauna, and Thursday it's finally my lympth appointment. Busy busy is the way to go.
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Date: 2018-08-04 01:41 pm (UTC)Bucky/Clint is da bomb. I love that pairing too. I know there are a number of good stories there. It isn't a popular pairing in MCU, but even the rare pairs get lots of stories because of volume. If I have time I will look up some of my history and see if I can find some for you.
Good luck with your appointments and twitching eye!
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Date: 2018-08-04 03:01 pm (UTC)Thank you for that. I suspected they may be a rare pair, one day I'll fall for the juggernaut pairing. One day! Until then I'll take what I can get.
Thank you. Botex to the eye, man. What are the odds? To be honest most people don't even notice the twitch until I point it out, but I do, and it's not going anywhere on its own.
And now Kayleigh has invited me for tea so I'm going for a walk up hers. I've been spoilt mam living so close, this 20 mins to Kay's is a shock to the system. At least I'm getting fed.
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Date: 2018-08-04 02:16 pm (UTC)Uff at the closing of the accounts. Even if the person didn't have an estate, it's such a hassle. Also boo to that company! Like, giving condolences is the norm. :|
May keeping busy continues work for you. <3
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Date: 2018-08-04 02:57 pm (UTC)Like I said, everyone but that one lady has been lovely. Saying sorry for our loss and even if they need documentation, being nice about it. Her not so much.
It's working for now, and at least now I know time will help simply because the sheer overwhelming grief of the first week or so is blunted.
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Date: 2018-08-04 04:29 pm (UTC)I'm sorry you've had to deal with so many details in winding up your mam's affairs - and that one place was so unfeeling and jerkish to you.
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Date: 2018-08-04 07:59 pm (UTC)That one place really annoyed me. I put the phone down and just thought, wtf? And I still don't know if asking to see the funeral bill is something they can actually do.
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Date: 2018-08-05 01:32 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2018-08-05 07:22 am (UTC)And, totally unrelated. I hope you're doing okay.
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Date: 2018-08-05 06:25 am (UTC)And I hope your shoulder and eye improve.
You look especially great in your birthday dinner dress.
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Date: 2018-08-05 07:22 am (UTC)Thank you. The shoulder situation is it's aching more doing the exercises, but I was warned that would happen so I'll press on.
Thank you again <3
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Date: 2018-08-05 04:07 pm (UTC)Good luck with the physiotherapy for your shoulder! And with the twitching eye treatments!
That's a great photo of you and your siblings!
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Date: 2018-08-08 11:02 am (UTC)Thank you. It turns out my appointment on Monday was just an assessment and I get the actual injection the first week in September.
It was a lovely night. We really need to keep up these sibs meetings.