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Dec. 17th, 2018 11:17 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsThe builders have finally been, and I now have my new shelves. I'm so pleased they're done, and I'm sure everyone else will be too as it means I'll stop mentioning it. The main builder is off to Centre Parks with his family for a holiday later today but squashed our job in first. So, I've decided he really did have a series of problems and all the rescheduling was genuine.
Yesterday I went up to see Kayleigh and stayed much longer than I intended, so apart from emptying the cupboards again I got nothing done that I intended. But in a few hours, James is driving my SiLs partner to his hometown to deliver presents, so for me, writing and catching up with happen this afternoon -- and maybe a bit of gazing at my new shelves.
While at Kay's we booked a table for us sibs plus partners to belatedly celebrate James' birthday. Sadly the place we usually go to was fully booked for three weeks, and really, James is very inconsiderate to be born in December. But we do have somewhere booked and I'm looking forward to going out again. This new tradition is one I really enjoy and hope it continues. The only thing is we'd already arranged for my MiL and FiL to visit during the day and I'd cook them a meal, so it's going to be a busy, and food focussed day.
Which reminds me of something that happened s few days ago. It's about weight and wls so I'll put it behind this
I'm sure no one remembers but a few years ago I posted about being at the park where I was approached by two ladies who asked me did I know I had lymphodema. At that time I was about a week away from going to have my bypass and I explained to them that yes I did, but I couldn't get treatment until I lost weight so was in a catch 22 situation. They both have the same condition and sympathised before I had to go and I haven't seen them since.
Fast-forward to the other day. I was in PC World, and one of those ladies was in the queue next to me. She asked if James was James -- she very loosely knows him, via FB I assume. And then asked if I was the lady who she was talking to in the park and I said yes. She asked how I'd lost so much weight if I'd had weight loss surgery and I told her yes, and she asked if she could take a photo to send to the other lady to show her how much I'd changed. I was taken aback but said yes because I'm that much of a pushover and she took a photo while I stood at the counter and then as a kicker said how she was trying to lose weight herself but was doing it the hard way. At which point I was internally rolling my eyes like crazy because nothing about having the bypass was taking an easy way. Admittedly, unless you went through the process, or you were one of the people who read my journal all the years I had to jump through hoops and hit every weight loss goal I was given or be dumped from the programme you wouldn't know that, but even so.
Corey phoned yesterday and he has to work boxing day night. I wish he could stay home longer, but I guess that's what happens when you do bar work. I was thinking about our boxing day buffet and how it would be pointless putting one on as James is at work from 2pm and will be taking Corey back to Newcastle before that so for the majority of the day I'll just be me and the cats. So, I'm going to do a Christmas eve buffet instead. Present delivery in the morning, then a small buffet on the night. Then first thing on boxing day I'll be heading off to the Lush sale with Kayleigh and be home before Corey even wakes up. I've talked to Kayleigh about that and we've decided to use some of the money we got from mam for our Lush haul, a last Christmas present from her to us. I think she'd approve.
Yesterday I went up to see Kayleigh and stayed much longer than I intended, so apart from emptying the cupboards again I got nothing done that I intended. But in a few hours, James is driving my SiLs partner to his hometown to deliver presents, so for me, writing and catching up with happen this afternoon -- and maybe a bit of gazing at my new shelves.
While at Kay's we booked a table for us sibs plus partners to belatedly celebrate James' birthday. Sadly the place we usually go to was fully booked for three weeks, and really, James is very inconsiderate to be born in December. But we do have somewhere booked and I'm looking forward to going out again. This new tradition is one I really enjoy and hope it continues. The only thing is we'd already arranged for my MiL and FiL to visit during the day and I'd cook them a meal, so it's going to be a busy, and food focussed day.
Which reminds me of something that happened s few days ago. It's about weight and wls so I'll put it behind this
I'm sure no one remembers but a few years ago I posted about being at the park where I was approached by two ladies who asked me did I know I had lymphodema. At that time I was about a week away from going to have my bypass and I explained to them that yes I did, but I couldn't get treatment until I lost weight so was in a catch 22 situation. They both have the same condition and sympathised before I had to go and I haven't seen them since.
Fast-forward to the other day. I was in PC World, and one of those ladies was in the queue next to me. She asked if James was James -- she very loosely knows him, via FB I assume. And then asked if I was the lady who she was talking to in the park and I said yes. She asked how I'd lost so much weight if I'd had weight loss surgery and I told her yes, and she asked if she could take a photo to send to the other lady to show her how much I'd changed. I was taken aback but said yes because I'm that much of a pushover and she took a photo while I stood at the counter and then as a kicker said how she was trying to lose weight herself but was doing it the hard way. At which point I was internally rolling my eyes like crazy because nothing about having the bypass was taking an easy way. Admittedly, unless you went through the process, or you were one of the people who read my journal all the years I had to jump through hoops and hit every weight loss goal I was given or be dumped from the programme you wouldn't know that, but even so.
Corey phoned yesterday and he has to work boxing day night. I wish he could stay home longer, but I guess that's what happens when you do bar work. I was thinking about our boxing day buffet and how it would be pointless putting one on as James is at work from 2pm and will be taking Corey back to Newcastle before that so for the majority of the day I'll just be me and the cats. So, I'm going to do a Christmas eve buffet instead. Present delivery in the morning, then a small buffet on the night. Then first thing on boxing day I'll be heading off to the Lush sale with Kayleigh and be home before Corey even wakes up. I've talked to Kayleigh about that and we've decided to use some of the money we got from mam for our Lush haul, a last Christmas present from her to us. I think she'd approve.
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Date: 2018-12-17 12:43 pm (UTC)Good luck with writing and stuff!
That sucks that things were booked for so long but I hope you have a nice time
*much hugs*
Hope you have a nice time and everything goes well!
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Date: 2018-12-17 01:46 pm (UTC)Thank you. I'm in the middle of my catch up and will be making a mug of tea and settling down to write soon. I'd like to think I'd get the story done this week then I can start to read some of the fic I've got tabbed.
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Date: 2018-12-17 09:24 pm (UTC)Ohh sounds nice! I hope you’ve got some done (I’ve ran into the bug akamine mentioned trying to get mine posted) and tell me about it, I’ve got... many tabs of fic open to read, across lj and ao3, oops
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Date: 2018-12-17 02:48 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2018-12-17 03:23 pm (UTC)I don't think she said it in a mean way or anything, but I'm so with you. There is no easy way.
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Date: 2018-12-17 05:36 pm (UTC)hope James' celebration goes well and everyone has a good time
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Date: 2018-12-17 09:21 pm (UTC)I'm looking forward to the celebration. But suspect I may be craving a quiet night by Thurs as James informed me earlier he's bought surprise pantomime tickets for tomorrow night.
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Date: 2018-12-17 07:22 pm (UTC)ALL the ways of losing weight are hard, otherwise we'd all be slim. People are so programmed with difficult attitudes about it.
Have a lovely lovely time at the dinner - sounds like it's going to be a busy day, but fun.
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Date: 2018-12-17 09:26 pm (UTC)That's very true. I'm sure it was a glib comment she never thought about, but there's really no point in comparing ways to lose weight. Because ultimately, you're right, they all are hard.
It's going to be a very busy day. Not helped that James surprised me with pantomime tickets for tomorrow night so we'll be on the go for two days straight as we must get the last of the Christmas gifts tomorrow, too. But, it should be fun and we'll be seeing Dick from Dick and Dom fame. I suspect there may be a few shouts of bogies during the show.
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Date: 2018-12-18 06:24 am (UTC)Wow, how rude (and wrong!) people can be. I'm impressed that you kept your eyerolling internal.
Your buffet plans sound nice though, and the Lush trip too. A bit of indulgence from her sounds just right for the holiday.
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Date: 2018-12-29 06:28 pm (UTC)Yes, exactly! I have to admit, I had fun arranging things on the new shelves.
Wow, how rude (and wrong!) people can be. I'm impressed that you kept your eyerolling internal..
Well, i don't think she meant it in a mean way, therefore internal eye rolling. But even so, it was such a stupid thing to say.
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Date: 2018-12-18 06:27 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2018-12-29 06:11 pm (UTC)It's the barely know thing that made it so ridiculous. I mean, we've met once before, so why the personal conversation at that point?
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Date: 2018-12-18 03:51 pm (UTC)Boo to James for being born in December (j/k!) One of my cousins was born on Dec. 25th so her birthday parties have always been slightly more Christmassy than birthday.
Re the wl stuff: part of me is eyerolling at the lady. Like, losing weight (short of an illness) is difficult regardless of which path a person chooses. :-/
ION, I can already see the staff at Lush holding meetings since they know that both you and Kayleigh will be going there sometime soon. ;P
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Date: 2018-12-29 06:19 pm (UTC)I love my shelves. And they've been put to good use lately.
Boo to James for being born in December (j/k!) One of my cousins was born on Dec. 25th so her birthday parties have always been slightly more Christmassy than birthday.
He should be booed!I always feel for people born in December. It's bad enough for James but I've heard so many stories from people with later Dec birthdays that their celebrations are affected in some ways.
Yeah, eye rolling was the way to go for that woman.
Totally unrelated. I'm about to send an email to you about something. I think you've kept the same one, but if you don't get anything could you let me know?
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Date: 2018-12-18 09:33 pm (UTC)(Really, people are so - rubbish, sometimes)
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Date: 2018-12-22 11:57 am (UTC)Really, people are so - rubbish, sometimes
Yeah, they really are.
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Date: 2018-12-18 09:33 pm (UTC)Almost all my relatives were inconsiderate enough to be born in December. So very irritating of them! But I hope you'll enjoy his birthday dinner and also the suprise!pantomime.
I will never understand how people like these manage to not realise how terribly rude they are. I'm far from a nice girl but even I know that there are things you just don't say to people you don't know very well! You should totally have told her how very NOT easy the bypass way is!
Poor Corey! A Christmas Eve buffet sounds like a nice substitute for your usual boxing day do. And going to Lush and buying fun stuff for yourselves sound like such a great use of that money!
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Date: 2018-12-22 12:01 pm (UTC)The birthday dinner was good, as was the surprise!pantomime. It's been a full week, though. I can do with a full day of doing nothing.
I will never understand how people like these manage to not realise how terribly rude they are. I'm far from a nice girl but even I know that there are things you just don't say to people you don't know very well!
That's the thing, I've no shame at all about what I had done and will talk about it to people that ask. But she wasn't asking, she was making a stupid comment in a stupid time and place.
The Christmas eve buffet will be nice. I'll miss the boxing day do, but there'll still be loads of left-overs and of course I can eat my most favourite sandwich ever!
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Date: 2018-12-22 12:01 pm (UTC)I'd say I don't know what she was thinking, but I know the answer is, she wasn't at all.
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Date: 2018-12-21 06:52 pm (UTC)Ahahaha, you easy-way person, you!! Yeah, she obviously doesn't know how much work and change you put into it.
Awww, hopefully you still enjoy your holidays. ANd LUSH, definitely approval from mam.
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Date: 2018-12-22 08:44 am (UTC)I really do think it was just a careless comment and not a mean one. But even so. Think, person.
I think I will enjoy them, not as much as usual and I suspect boxing day afternoon will be hard when James is at work, Corey back in Newcastle and I'll be alone. But I'll get through it. No doubt by hanging online a lot.