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[turps]

It would have been mam's 71st birthday today. As I'm sure a lot of you know, we had a complicated relationship, but despite that, I'll love her always and would do anything to have been able to talk to her today.

Due to being pretty much housebound in her last few years, she spent a load of time on FB, and so many people have posted on her wall today. Including people who obviously just see the birthday notification sent automatically by FB and as a result post a happy birthday without realising she's not here. I understand why it happens, but man, the hope you're having a happy day posts are kickers.

I've also been to the doctors with James today and he's got another two weeks sick note. He's getting better, his muscles starting to loosen up but still spends a lot of time asleep, though the only way is up from now on. Fingers crossed anyway. Again I queued up for half an hour only to have to leave when James got an appointment on the app. I'm sure people think I'm daft walking away, but it's the only way to be sure of getting an appointment.

So, as the appointment wasn't until 9:40 and it was only 8:30 we had a mooch around Lidl and bought yellow roses -- mam's favourites -- for myself and Kayleigh, and then had a coffee in Costa, went to see the doctor, then to see Kayleigh for a couple of hours and then home.

Tinker is doing much better, though I'm giving her the thyroid meds in food now. I was using the syringe but it meant wrapping her in a towel and each time she fought back scratching my arms and chest and then yesterday she got so scared she actually peed herself, and nope, not doing that to her every night for life. So, I googled and while it isn't the ideal way to give the meds, with food it is.

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[chalcopyrite]

♥♥♥

Yellow roses were Mom's favourites too.

Glad to hear both James and Tinker are doing better.

[turps]

They're such beautiful flowers.

My aunt doesn't believe in flowers at funerals, so last year she gave me, Kayleigh and Chris a yellow rose bush each instead. Mine has been blooming beautifully for weeks now.

You're right how cats change on those meds. I didn't realise just how listless Tinker had become until suddenly she wasn't listless at all.

[rikes]

My aunt doesn't believe in flowers at funerals, so last year she gave me, Kayleigh and Chris a yellow rose bush each instead. Mine has been blooming beautifully for weeks now.

What a lovely memorial!

[turps]

What a lovely memorial!

It really is. She's the first person I knew who didn't give funeral flowers, but I see her point now the roses have been blooming all over the summer.

[dine]

those unthinking notices sound odd, as well as being the worst sort of reminder of a painful loss. I just have to wonder how people don't think before posting

I'm glad you got yellow roses, and that James and Tinker are improving!

[turps]

The same thing happened last year with the happy birthday posts, but that was more understandable as it was only weeks since mam had died so some may not have known. But this year it was just weird. So many saying hope you have a happy birthday despite her obviously not posting for over a year.

The yellow roses are beautiful, and nice to see as the ones in the garden are finished now.

[eglantiere]

::hugs::

[turps]

Thank you ♥

[shadowhive]

*hugs you tight* I hope you’re gonna be ok. Such days are always tough, but it seems you had an ok one

*hugs him*im glad he’s getting better

Aww poor kitty, yeah that sounds like a much better way of doing things

[turps]

Yeah, I'll be fine. Just a day of remembering her, really. Sad, but nice too.

Giving her the meds in food is so much easier. I hated that we frightened her so much by trying to give them via syringe.

[glitteryv]

Warm hugs to you and fingers crossed for James and Tinker.

[turps]

Thank you ♥

[castalie]

Anniversaries are always so hard - and it's sad when birthdays become part of those dates... *hugs*

Glad to hear James is doing better, even if it's a slow process.

Take care of yourself *hugs some more*

[turps]

They are sad, sadly it's inevitable the older we get the more we have to deal with.

Hugs from you are always welcome. Thank you ♥

[raynedanser]

*hugs*

Glad to hear James is still on the mend. :)

[turps]

♥

He is, though still spends a load of time asleep. Which is exactly what he's doing right now.

[bettina]

*hugs*

[turps]

Thank you, B ♥

I don't know if you've started the new job yet, but hope whatever is happening life is treating you well.

[bettina]

I started Monday last week and the first week was quite alright, if a bit overwhelming. Thank you!

[brandywine28]

*hugs*

I don't expect this to help, but I just know your mom would be so pleased at how often and how warmly you think of her.

*extra hugs*

[turps]

Honestly, people listening when I talk about her always helps.

Thank you ♥

[frausorge]

♥ May your grief go with you lightly.

I"m glad James is feeling somewhat better, and Tinker too.

[turps]

Thank you ♥

[turlough]

*hugs you long and hard*

Can you get a FB account set to memorial like you can on DW? Maybe that would stop things like birthday notifications being sent.

Sending James lots of good thoughts so he'll get better again swiftly.

I'm so glad to hear Tinker is doing much better! But yeah, I would also definitely settle for a less effective but much less traumatic way of medication. Poor Tinker.

[turps]

Thank you ♥

I don't actually use FB that much but Kayleigh is a regular so I'll ask her about a memorial status. It's a good idea if it can happen because I'd hate for the account to close for any reason, as mam did use it a lot. But at the same time, I could do without seeing birthday wishes again.

Tinker is doing much better, and in fact has her last antibiotic tonight. Though the thyroid will be a lifelong thing. She's getting spoiled as I'm buying her cat soup and mixing the liquid meds into that. The other two will think she's the favourite now.