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Nov. 12th, 2019 05:08 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsI've been to Costco today and amazingly came out without buying anything apart from the cat litter we went in for. I was tempted by a giant light-up snowman but it was a little out of my price range. If only I had a spare £100.
But, I did buy my first sparkle deer of the year! Also, a hippo tree ornament that's so ugly it had to come home with us. see.
From Costco we went to James' first counselling session -- it turned out the phone call last week was only to schedule and get things started. The office is in a business centre which is shared by lots of different offices so I got to sit in the shared kitchen and watch tv while James had his session. It looks like it's going to be good for him. There's a lot going on with him, stuff tied to his condition and how its getting worse plus the job he does, the melting point of the bad day last week being a call where someone had breathing difficulties like mam. These sessions are arranged by his work and the results fed back to them, so that should help too.
Before going in I told him to ensure he talked about him, and not the things going on with my Inlaws. Because yeah, the do affect him, but that's only a part and he needed to talk about his own issues. My MiL ties into that a lot, too. I think my in-laws forget that he's not the same young man that left home so long ago and now has a lot of physical issues plus my MiL does tend to bring every conversation back to my SIL and her problems. And she showed that clearly by phoning when we were driving home. We'd literally left five minutes before and had just started talking about things that had been said. She did say sorry and that she'd forgotten he was there. Asked how it was gone, then said, did you tell them everything that was going on with A -- A being our nephew who's in foster care. I was proud of James as he said that he'd briefly mentioned it, but the sessions are about his problems, not other people's. She agreed with that, and then started to talk about how my SiL's partner may not go home permanently tomorrow as planned and just, sigh. I love her, but just once I'd love it if she concentrated on James only.
But, I did buy my first sparkle deer of the year! Also, a hippo tree ornament that's so ugly it had to come home with us. see.
From Costco we went to James' first counselling session -- it turned out the phone call last week was only to schedule and get things started. The office is in a business centre which is shared by lots of different offices so I got to sit in the shared kitchen and watch tv while James had his session. It looks like it's going to be good for him. There's a lot going on with him, stuff tied to his condition and how its getting worse plus the job he does, the melting point of the bad day last week being a call where someone had breathing difficulties like mam. These sessions are arranged by his work and the results fed back to them, so that should help too.
Before going in I told him to ensure he talked about him, and not the things going on with my Inlaws. Because yeah, the do affect him, but that's only a part and he needed to talk about his own issues. My MiL ties into that a lot, too. I think my in-laws forget that he's not the same young man that left home so long ago and now has a lot of physical issues plus my MiL does tend to bring every conversation back to my SIL and her problems. And she showed that clearly by phoning when we were driving home. We'd literally left five minutes before and had just started talking about things that had been said. She did say sorry and that she'd forgotten he was there. Asked how it was gone, then said, did you tell them everything that was going on with A -- A being our nephew who's in foster care. I was proud of James as he said that he'd briefly mentioned it, but the sessions are about his problems, not other people's. She agreed with that, and then started to talk about how my SiL's partner may not go home permanently tomorrow as planned and just, sigh. I love her, but just once I'd love it if she concentrated on James only.
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Date: 2019-11-12 11:16 pm (UTC)James is lucky to have you. I hope the counselling sessions help.
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Date: 2019-11-16 12:02 pm (UTC)I think the sessions will help, getting to talk to a stranger can be a good thing.
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Date: 2019-11-13 06:58 am (UTC)And I'm glad James will have some support focused on his own needs. That does sound very one-track of his mother.
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Date: 2019-11-16 12:00 pm (UTC)My MiL can get very one-track. I do understand why, but I wish she'd broaden her focus at times.
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Date: 2019-11-13 06:17 pm (UTC)That's a VERY sparkly deer indeed! And you're so right, such an ugly hippo clearly belongs on your tree!
I'm keeping everything crossed James'll get a good counsellor and that the sessions will be just what he needs right now. Give him a hug from me!
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Date: 2019-11-16 11:11 am (UTC)It's such a pretty sparkle deer and an amazingly ugly hippo. I love her.
I hope so too, and I did :)
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Date: 2019-11-15 01:23 pm (UTC)Here's hoping the counselling yields some positive results! James certainly has no shortage of things to talk about in his sessions -- gah.
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Date: 2019-11-16 11:12 am (UTC)He really liked the lady he was talking to in the couselling, and can have 12 sessions, which is good, as you're right. He does have a lot to talk about.
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Date: 2019-11-24 09:01 pm (UTC)And an extra kudos for James for attending his session AND for you ensuring him that it's about him and not everyone else. <3
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Date: 2019-12-30 04:04 pm (UTC)The hippo ornament is so ugly. I love it!
And an extra kudos for James for attending his session AND for you ensuring him that it's about him and not everyone else. <3
I could shower praise on his counsellor. I know sometimes it's hard to get someone who fits well, but he got so lucky with her.