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Jun. 11th, 2020 06:25 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsIt was inevitable it would happen eventually, but last night Murphy fell in the bath, thankfully I wasn't in it at the time.
He likes to sit on the side watching the water and bubbles go down the plughole. Last night he must have slipped, fell sideways and came up looking like a drowned rat. He moves fast anyway but went extra fast once he was out, and it took me a while to catch him and towel him dry. He did look beautifully fluffy and smell gorgeous, though.
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How open are you about being in fandom to your non-fandom friends/family?
Petty open to various degrees. James knows I write, post fic and obviously knows about my fannish friends, in fact, he's met and interacts with a lot of them, same for Corey who became used to random fannish friends staying in the house and meeting up with us. My in-laws, extended family and other friends know I have fannish friends and am in fandom, just they don't know details of what I do. Kayleigh knows all that plus that I write, but she thinks I write only porn which makes me laugh, as that's not true at all. I also have a mix of friends and family on my Insta and that can be a mix of fannish and real life, so they know through that too. My brother likes to laugh at me on insta when I post fannish stuff but he's just jealous really.
However, none of them apart from James know that I post on DW/LJ or my user name on A03, even then he doesn't read what I write in any of those places. I'm not at all ashamed of fandom and being a fan, but this is my private personal space, and that's how I like it.
He likes to sit on the side watching the water and bubbles go down the plughole. Last night he must have slipped, fell sideways and came up looking like a drowned rat. He moves fast anyway but went extra fast once he was out, and it took me a while to catch him and towel him dry. He did look beautifully fluffy and smell gorgeous, though.
The June Something.
How open are you about being in fandom to your non-fandom friends/family?
Petty open to various degrees. James knows I write, post fic and obviously knows about my fannish friends, in fact, he's met and interacts with a lot of them, same for Corey who became used to random fannish friends staying in the house and meeting up with us. My in-laws, extended family and other friends know I have fannish friends and am in fandom, just they don't know details of what I do. Kayleigh knows all that plus that I write, but she thinks I write only porn which makes me laugh, as that's not true at all. I also have a mix of friends and family on my Insta and that can be a mix of fannish and real life, so they know through that too. My brother likes to laugh at me on insta when I post fannish stuff but he's just jealous really.
However, none of them apart from James know that I post on DW/LJ or my user name on A03, even then he doesn't read what I write in any of those places. I'm not at all ashamed of fandom and being a fan, but this is my private personal space, and that's how I like it.
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Date: 2020-06-11 05:51 pm (UTC)Aww it’s nice you’ve had so many meet-ups with people, it makes me wish I’d had more
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Date: 2020-06-11 05:58 pm (UTC)Most of my fannish meetups have happened due to the people I met through popslash, though I do have other friends I met well before that. Camp Sparkle and other sparkly gathering have been amazing for my fannish social life, and I will forever love every sparkly person for their constant friendship and repeated offers to meet up, even when I was at my worst health wise and tended to turn mute in groups of more than a few people.
You still have plenty of time to have more meetups, maybe a UA con will happen one day. That would be great.
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Date: 2020-06-11 06:02 pm (UTC)Ohh nice, I’m so glad you’ve had them and they’ve been such a positive in your life!
Aww thanks, it really would be
My thing is in general I’m shy but also most times I’ve met people it tends to be a one time thing or that after that we get distant
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Date: 2020-06-11 07:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2020-06-27 02:42 pm (UTC)I laughed at him too once he was dried off. He looked so betrayed when he jumped out.
I hope he never falls in when I'm there, his claws are needle-sharp!
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Date: 2020-06-11 08:20 pm (UTC)I think I'm at a similar level of fannish exposure to yourself. Various people in my family know about my fannishness, but I think my Bun is the only one who's read any of my stories (quite a long while ago); only she and Beast know my DW account, as far as I remember, and it's best that way. I have another one for Family, but that was really set up when FIL went to Australia and isn't much used now. I was very cross when my Musical Director at HHTC found my website and told the Youth Group about it, which was really inappropriate of him.
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Date: 2020-06-27 02:37 pm (UTC)I agree though, cats do look ridiculous when they're wet.
only she and Beast know my DW account, as far as I remember, and it's best that way.
Yeah, I have nothing to hide in my journal, but at the same time, I like that I do have a space that's totally mine.
I was very cross when my Musical Director at HHTC found my website and told the Youth Group about it, which was really inappropriate of him.
Oh wow, that's so wrong. That really wasn't his info to share.
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Date: 2020-06-12 03:41 am (UTC)...no?
You're braver than I am - none of my relatives know about my fic, although some of my non-fannish friends do. Then again many friends who are now local RL friends are people I met through fandom in the first place, so no secrets there.
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Date: 2020-06-12 05:44 pm (UTC)I can't even remember how I came to tell Kayleigh that I write, I know it was never in any detail because she just jokes that I write porn.
I love how easily fannish friends can become RL friends. I wish I lived closer to my fannish friends but sadly I don't. However, I'm very glad you do, that's a very lovely thing.
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Date: 2020-06-13 12:41 pm (UTC)James knowing about your fic and journals but not reading them feels like the best possible fannish situation. You don't have to hide anything, but you still get to retain some privacy. That's the dream, right there. :)
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Date: 2020-06-27 02:39 pm (UTC)He looked ridiculous when he was soaking wet. It's amazing how small cats actually are when they're not fluffy.
James knowing about your fic and journals but not reading them feels like the best possible fannish situation. You don't have to hide anything, but you still get to retain some privacy. That's the dream, right there. :)
Exactly. I have nothing to hide from him, but I like it's my own space where I can say what I want.