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Aug. 7th, 2021 05:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsI have my computer back!
Well, actually it was back yesterday but I had to reinstall all of my stuff on it and get it back to how I like it. Thankfully they managed to save most of my info, all I've actually lost were the saved emails I kept in thunderbird, but as I never delete from the actual Gmail site and use that as storage, I could get them from there in the future.
I sort of kept up on Insta so said thank you there, but thank you again to Pensnest, Misbegotten and Romantical for the cards/parcel, they really cheered me up.
Normally I'd try and catch up on my flist but this time, as it's been so long, I suspect I'll have to draw a line and start reading from today. So, I hope you've all been well.
As for what's been happening to me.
Starting with the good news, Lucy and Kayleigh's baby is due on Tuesday, but it looks like she may be here sooner than that, so baby B in the near future \o/
So-so news. It was my lymph appointment last Friday. Sadly I'd retained more fluid in both legs but my nurse was fine with that, saying the really hot humid weather would have been an issue, plus the fact I'd been really busy with in-law stuff. Also, my compressions were shot. They haven't been holding for a while and he said that normally they last between twelve and eighteen months, I've finished off mine in six. Probably because I do religiously wear them and try to walk as much as I can which affects the velcro over time. So, he said they wouldn't have been giving much compression at all, which is typical. But, new ones are being made now so I'll have those soon.
Sad news. It's James' uncle's funeral Monday afternoon, then exactly twenty-four hours later, in the same place, it's my FiL's funeral.
They found out my FiL suffered a pulmonary embolism, he had blood clots in both lungs, probably travelling from his legs which were in a bad state, and when a big clot dislodged he was gone in seconds. There wasn't a thing anyone could have done to save him and he wouldn't have been aware of anything.
James went to see him in the funeral home, and I'm glad that he did. When James saw Ted in the back of the ambulance he looked terrible, with blue-tinged skin with blood behind him where he'd hit his head when he collapsed. James said he looked totally different at the funeral home, smart, his hair tidied, face washed and just like he was sleeping.
James went back to work last Monday but it was too soon, and came home the same afternoon and was given a longer bereavement time off. When he went on the morning people kept saying they couldn't believe he'd gone back so soon after the two deaths, and they were right, he shouldn't have as his mental health had tanked. But, seeing his dad looking peaceful has helped.
Sadly, while my FiL had life insurance it was for accidental death only, so he's having a basic, but still very nice funeral. There's no wake, but the immediate family will be going for a meal afterwards.
My MiL has moved out of the family home and is now living with my SiL, so we've all been helping to clear the house. I've mentioned before it's in a state, but until I started to help with the clear out I didn't realise just how squalid and bad the conditions had become. I actually had to nope out one day when I'd finished deep cleaning the fridge freezer so it could be sold and then tried to tidy the kitchen only to find dishes floating in disgusting water, no tea towels or clean cloths and worst of all, as they had no gas, no hot water.
Cleaning the house also means stuff has been coming here, stuff that's important to James and he wants to keep, but still stuff so I've been glad of today to get that put away and get my own house looking tidy again.
Everyone had a much needed day off from house cleaning today, and we spent it by going to Re.F.Use for breakfast and to pick up a waste not box. Nothing too out there and everything we'll use, though I now have a lot of milk that needs using up.
Then it was getting stuck into my huge backlog of emails -- most of which were surveys, and being glad I was fully back online.
Oh, and cleaning up the glass pyrex dish that I dropped on the floor which smashed, glass and the ingredients for a curry I was about to start cooking, going everywhere. On the bright side, the inside of the oven and the floor are now very clean.
Well, actually it was back yesterday but I had to reinstall all of my stuff on it and get it back to how I like it. Thankfully they managed to save most of my info, all I've actually lost were the saved emails I kept in thunderbird, but as I never delete from the actual Gmail site and use that as storage, I could get them from there in the future.
I sort of kept up on Insta so said thank you there, but thank you again to Pensnest, Misbegotten and Romantical for the cards/parcel, they really cheered me up.
Normally I'd try and catch up on my flist but this time, as it's been so long, I suspect I'll have to draw a line and start reading from today. So, I hope you've all been well.
As for what's been happening to me.
Starting with the good news, Lucy and Kayleigh's baby is due on Tuesday, but it looks like she may be here sooner than that, so baby B in the near future \o/
So-so news. It was my lymph appointment last Friday. Sadly I'd retained more fluid in both legs but my nurse was fine with that, saying the really hot humid weather would have been an issue, plus the fact I'd been really busy with in-law stuff. Also, my compressions were shot. They haven't been holding for a while and he said that normally they last between twelve and eighteen months, I've finished off mine in six. Probably because I do religiously wear them and try to walk as much as I can which affects the velcro over time. So, he said they wouldn't have been giving much compression at all, which is typical. But, new ones are being made now so I'll have those soon.
Sad news. It's James' uncle's funeral Monday afternoon, then exactly twenty-four hours later, in the same place, it's my FiL's funeral.
They found out my FiL suffered a pulmonary embolism, he had blood clots in both lungs, probably travelling from his legs which were in a bad state, and when a big clot dislodged he was gone in seconds. There wasn't a thing anyone could have done to save him and he wouldn't have been aware of anything.
James went to see him in the funeral home, and I'm glad that he did. When James saw Ted in the back of the ambulance he looked terrible, with blue-tinged skin with blood behind him where he'd hit his head when he collapsed. James said he looked totally different at the funeral home, smart, his hair tidied, face washed and just like he was sleeping.
James went back to work last Monday but it was too soon, and came home the same afternoon and was given a longer bereavement time off. When he went on the morning people kept saying they couldn't believe he'd gone back so soon after the two deaths, and they were right, he shouldn't have as his mental health had tanked. But, seeing his dad looking peaceful has helped.
Sadly, while my FiL had life insurance it was for accidental death only, so he's having a basic, but still very nice funeral. There's no wake, but the immediate family will be going for a meal afterwards.
My MiL has moved out of the family home and is now living with my SiL, so we've all been helping to clear the house. I've mentioned before it's in a state, but until I started to help with the clear out I didn't realise just how squalid and bad the conditions had become. I actually had to nope out one day when I'd finished deep cleaning the fridge freezer so it could be sold and then tried to tidy the kitchen only to find dishes floating in disgusting water, no tea towels or clean cloths and worst of all, as they had no gas, no hot water.
Cleaning the house also means stuff has been coming here, stuff that's important to James and he wants to keep, but still stuff so I've been glad of today to get that put away and get my own house looking tidy again.
Everyone had a much needed day off from house cleaning today, and we spent it by going to Re.F.Use for breakfast and to pick up a waste not box. Nothing too out there and everything we'll use, though I now have a lot of milk that needs using up.
Then it was getting stuck into my huge backlog of emails -- most of which were surveys, and being glad I was fully back online.
Oh, and cleaning up the glass pyrex dish that I dropped on the floor which smashed, glass and the ingredients for a curry I was about to start cooking, going everywhere. On the bright side, the inside of the oven and the floor are now very clean.
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Date: 2021-08-07 07:12 pm (UTC)Two hard emotional hits so close together must be really difficult. Sending out good thoughts to both of you.
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Date: 2021-08-08 01:59 pm (UTC)Thank you, and hope Baby is doing okay.
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Date: 2021-08-08 04:41 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2021-08-07 08:40 pm (UTC)We have been clearing out FIL's copious Stuff for weeks now, which is very tedious. Sadly, he didn't own much that was worth keeping, although Freecycle and the local Oxfam have been doing okay. On the positive side, the acquisition of some Stuff has meant I have been much less inclined to shop or acquire more Stuff at the moment. You do need a rest from the house clearing, definitely.
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Date: 2021-08-08 02:03 pm (UTC)My FiL and yours sound like they were cut from similar cloth. We found 37 pairs of trainers in the main bedroom, most battered but never thrown away. Also a pile of Peoples Friends books. My FiL has bought my MiL a copy of that since the year they met, so 50 books to deal with. It was a lovely tradition, but now they're just sitting there, unread and unwanted.
But talking of stuff. James brought home the most hideous stuff monkey. Apparently, it's a treasured childhood toy for him. I think it's going to murder us in its sleep.
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Date: 2021-08-07 10:57 pm (UTC)I'm so sorry for the losses your family has had - and for the follow-up hard work people have been facing. death is never easy, but that makes it even harder
good job cleaning up the kitchen - there's nothing as discouraging as putting together a dish, then dropping it. especially when you end up with broken glass as well as food all over
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Date: 2021-08-08 01:58 pm (UTC)I'm exhausted after all the organising and house cleaning. I really needed this weekend of not travelling to the house.
Oh man, I was so annoyed when I dropped the dish. Talk about a mess. Thankfully the dishwasher took some of the strain as I put all the oven shelves into that.
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Date: 2021-08-08 06:09 am (UTC)I hope James does get to take time truly for himself. What heavy losses to deal with. It sounds good that he did get to have that more peaceful moment with his dad. Sending hopes for comfort for all mourning. - And for all doing the clearing out work! That's painful in and of itself, even without the particular conditions of that house. Hope you get enough breaks yourself while you're helping with that.
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Date: 2021-08-08 01:56 pm (UTC)It feels so weird going through my FiLs personal stuff. Especially things like paperwork which I always feel we shouldn't be looking at. But have to as my MiL asked James to take care of that side of things.
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Date: 2021-08-10 07:29 pm (UTC)You'll soon be an aunt again, whee!!
Good luck with the new compression stockings!
I've never had to clear up a relatives house but I can imagine how strange and uncomfortable it must feel.
I feel for you! Food makes such a MESS when you drop it!
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Date: 2021-09-15 05:24 pm (UTC)I've never had to clear up a relatives house but I can imagine how strange and uncomfortable it must feel.
It's so weird, still is. I really don't like having to look through paperwork. It was bad enough doing it for mam, but my FiL feels worse somehow.