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Aug. 29th, 2021 02:39 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsWe did end up going to the funeral on Thursday. It was a nice but short ceremony as there had been a chuch service beforehand. We also went to the wake afterwards and spent a few hours with James' old school friends. I know all of them after many years of getting together for various things, but what made me smile was people were talking about holiday insurance and one of James' friends said at least when you had arthrogryposis the insurance stayed low as it's such a rare condition that usually the insurance company hadn't heard of it.
At which point James said he'd never realised his friend had AMC too. I asked him about that later and he said that when they were kids no one ever talked about their disabilities, they were just kids being kids, and disability never came into it.
Friday we went out for an early lunch for baby fannish niece, who will be 19 next week. We went to The Stack at the beach and of course, picked a day that was cold. But The Stack has heaters so I picked a prime spot under a heater and was soon toasty. There was also a singer on when we were there, just a crooner doing a mix of Disney and old classics, but he was entertaining enough.
Yesterday a family friend was visiting his mam and dad in the area and we spent the day with him and his girlfriend. She just had a gastric bypass a month or so ago so wanted to chat to me about that and hopefully, I could be reassuring because it may be four years ago, but I still remember how hard the early days are.
So, we met for lunch, then went to the beach and funfair, which was really busy due to it being a hot, warm day on a bank holiday weekend, then back to our friend's parents for a coffee before home.
James met up with them again today but I cried off and got some things sorted in the house before making a start on catching up online.
At which point James said he'd never realised his friend had AMC too. I asked him about that later and he said that when they were kids no one ever talked about their disabilities, they were just kids being kids, and disability never came into it.
Friday we went out for an early lunch for baby fannish niece, who will be 19 next week. We went to The Stack at the beach and of course, picked a day that was cold. But The Stack has heaters so I picked a prime spot under a heater and was soon toasty. There was also a singer on when we were there, just a crooner doing a mix of Disney and old classics, but he was entertaining enough.
Yesterday a family friend was visiting his mam and dad in the area and we spent the day with him and his girlfriend. She just had a gastric bypass a month or so ago so wanted to chat to me about that and hopefully, I could be reassuring because it may be four years ago, but I still remember how hard the early days are.
So, we met for lunch, then went to the beach and funfair, which was really busy due to it being a hot, warm day on a bank holiday weekend, then back to our friend's parents for a coffee before home.
James met up with them again today but I cried off and got some things sorted in the house before making a start on catching up online.
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Date: 2021-08-29 04:20 pm (UTC)The insurance thing made me laugh even though it's against kind of a bitter backdrop. "they were just kids being kids" is so good, though.
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Date: 2021-08-30 04:19 pm (UTC)I suspect if the insurance companies ever fully understood how serious James' condition is the prices would rocket. He does declare everything, but I guess because AMC is so unknown no red flags are raised.
I do like the kids being kids too. It's such a simple lovely thing.
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Date: 2021-08-29 05:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2021-08-30 04:16 pm (UTC)However, I also enjoyed being home alone yesterday.
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Date: 2021-08-29 07:38 pm (UTC)Yeah, when I try to think back on how I interacted with my friends when I was a kid I can see how something like that wouldn't really have been something I registred unless the grownups around me made a big deal out of it. It wouldn't have been important to why I was friend with someone. Many things really were so much simpler when you were a kid.
I say like I do with Corey, I totally refuse to believe that fannish niece is 19. I'm sure it can't have been that long ago she was just a preteen!
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Date: 2021-08-30 04:15 pm (UTC)It wouldn't have been important to why I was friend with someone.
Exactly. I thought it was such a lovely thing to say, and summed up childhood friendships nicely.
I know, I still think fannish niece is much younger too. I well remember when she was that young and started to make steps into bandom. It was very unexpected.
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Date: 2021-08-30 04:23 pm (UTC)Lunch sounds lovely (if a tad cool).
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Date: 2021-09-03 02:29 pm (UTC)It was lovely, but yeah, a touch cool. Thank goodness for the heaters.