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[turps]

Some people are beyond me.

I've just came home from picking Corey up from school, I walk to get him and most days I'm early so I wait on a bench near the local church. I was early today, so I was sitting just chilling, rummaging through my bag for my chap stick and this old woman comes up to me, really invading my personal space and says. 'Why did you get so big?' I mean WTF! I'm fat, I know that, I don't need random strangers commenting on it to my face. I didn't know what the hell to say. First impulse was to tell her to fuck off but I couldn't do that, so I mumbled something about always being like this. So she replies 'Are you sure?' Yeah, of course I'm bloody sure, I have to look at myself everyday.

What she expected me to say I don't know. Was I supposed to go, 'When I get upset I stuff my face with food because in my mind food is the ultimate comfort?'

So she's standing looking at me and I'm looking at my bag because I feel about an inch tall and she goes 'Oh okay, take care pet.' Right tell me to take care after you've just made me want to cry in the middle of the street then hit the nearest shop and buy as much chocolate that I can.

I don't know why some people have the mistaken belief that they can say what they like. I wish I wasn't such a sap that I could have told her to fuck off, but I know if I did I would have felt bad about it after.

So I'll say it here...Fuck off and leave me alone!

Comments

[adelate]

God! How rude was that?

I'm sorry, honey, it hurts, I know. [hugs] Some people need to learn manners.

[turps33.livejournal.com]

Oh your icon just gave me the biggest smile!

God! How rude was that?

I know. I couldn't believe it myself.

I'm sorry, honey, it hurts, I know. [hugs] Some people need to learn manners

*hugs you back* Thank you.

[dreamtrance.livejournal.com]

Justin can tell her off *points to icon*

man some people need to learn to back the fuck off! I probably would have said some pretty nasty things to her but thats me. I give you a lot of credit for not going off on her actually.

and I wanna know since when is it a crime to be 'fat' like 'deciding' to be fat is equivalent to joining the mafia *grumbles*
/rant

sorry kinda went off there

anyway I hope it doesn't get you too down, some people are stupid and need to be smacked with a big stick.

*hugs* keep your chin up

[turps33.livejournal.com]

Perfect icon, I'll have to practice that pissy face in case anything like this happens again.

I probably would have said some pretty nasty things to her but thats me. I give you a lot of credit for not going off on her actually.

At the time I was too stunned to really say anything. But I doubt I would have said anything anyway as I have a stupid habit of feeling bad if I say anything negative to people. I'm far too soft for my own good at times.

No need to be sorry for the rant. It makes me feel good that someone would be annoyed on my behalf. It's up to no one how I live my life but me. Some people are just too nosy and interfering for their own good, and yes a big stick would be an excellent idea then.

*hugs you back* thanks for the kind words.

[patchworkdragon.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[turps33.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Thank you. Just what I needed.

[kaijawest.livejournal.com]

What a bitch!

Maybe you should come up with one of those snappy come backs like, "Yeah but you're ugly. I could lose weight but you'd look like you were beaten by the ugly stick!"

Come to think of it, she's lucky you weren't a psycho or something. If it makes you feel any better I think people who go around saying stuff like that (that they have no right to) probably end up saying it to the wrong person eventually. She'll get hers I'm sure.

*hugs*

[turps33.livejournal.com]

Maybe you should come up with one of those snappy come backs like, "Yeah but you're ugly. I could lose weight but you'd look like you were beaten by the ugly stick!"

All the best come backs pop into your head afterwards. I like yours though.

She'll get hers I'm sure.

I'd like to think karma works like that. Thanks for the kind words, it means a lot.

[maubast.livejournal.com]

First, it's none of her business.

Second, don't let the pinheads get you down.

I understand how it feels - it hurts.

*hugs*

[turps33.livejournal.com]

First, it's none of her business

True.

Second, don't let the pinheads get you down

I won't. I was a little upset yesterday, simply because of how blatant she was. But I've let it go now. The incredible response from LJ helped a lot.

I understand how it feels - it hurts

I wish you didn't understand. No one should be made to feel bad about themselves.

*hugs you too*

[ceci2176.livejournal.com]

It baffles me that people like that woman exist. Sometimes when people stare at me or ask really personal questions, or ask me how I'd think I'll ever get a husband since I'm in a wheelchair, I ignore curtesy and just simply tell them that it's none of their business and show them the finger. Feels good from time to time....

*hugs*

[turps33.livejournal.com]

I hate people that stare. Not so much for me, but James, my husband. He's obviously disabled and I've watched as people bend their arms and hands into the positions his are and show their friends. It's so blatant too, and some people are so condescending when you're disabled. I've been sitting with James and had people come over and ask if he needs his food cut up, or someone say how brave he is to me while he's doing something. I hate it. James is James, I don't even see his disabilities unless they're brought to my attention. That may sound strange, but to me he's the man I love, despite how he looks.

When I was pregnant he even had people ask how he could think of having kids, which just showed me some people are ignorant and will say anything.

All I try to keep thinking is for every idiot there's more people who care and understand.

This is me on my soap box but people are people, it doesn't matter if they're fat or disabled or any other thing that people discriminate about.

Sorry Ceci, you're getting my rant about idiots *g*

I'm going to try and tell the next person that says something it's none of their business. I suspect I'd feel better than just saying nothing which is what I did today.

*hugs you back*

pissed

[patk.livejournal.com]

Next time something like this happens you just give them the once-over and ask "That's the task your therapist from the "how to highten your self-esteem" group gave you for a homework?"

Pat

:-)

[claire.livejournal.com]

*slaps rude lady with dead trout*

{{{hugs you}}}

[rhiannon-jehane.livejournal.com]

What an appallingly rude woman! I’m so sorry you were hurt by her rudeness and stupidity.

{{hugs}}

Devising a comeback

[(Anonymous)]

StarWatcher, waving and sending hugs.

As someone who goes out of my way to think of a *kind* explanation for whatever, (like, 'well, some people just have a slow metabolism'), I can't believe someone would say such a thing. But let's face it -- some people haven't the sense God gave a grape.

But telling people like that it's none of their business isn't enough. You've got to put *them* on the defensive, maybe make them cautious about opening their mouth again. Here's something that Ann Landers recommends. It works in any situation that someone makes stupid, thoughtless remarks -- your weight, James' disability, whatever. Practice out loud, in front of a mirror, until you can do it convincingly, naturally, automatically. The goal -- a look of astonishment on your face as you say, "What on *earth* makes you think that it's any of your business?"

That's it; should send them off with their tail between their legs. And the thing is, you're not attacking them, so they shouldn't be inclined to "fight back" and maybe make the situation escalate.

Good luck, and remember, *we* love you.

SW

[phoenyxphiyre.livejournal.com]

*hugs* What a terrible moment!

*hugs again* I'll see if I can set the MX Muses to coming up with a comfort fic for you...

[turps33.livejournal.com]

*hugs* What a terrible moment!

Thanks, hugs help so much.

*hugs again* I'll see if I can set the MX Muses to coming up with a comfort fic for you...

That would be lovely, but if you're busy just the fact you offered made me feel all gooey inside :)

[phoenyxphiyre.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hugs help so much.

I try. *smile*

That would be lovely, but if you're busy just the fact you offered made me feel all gooey inside :)

Actually, Brennnan Muse and Jesse Muse are schemimg something, wanting me to do a Brennan/Jesse version of the ultra-sappy Emma/Shal songfic I'm currently working on. Will have to see what becomes of it...

Another person for me to slap silly!

[jencat004.livejournal.com]

I SO wish I could have been there to give the old biddy a swift boot in the rear for you! Now, that's two people I gotta smack, her and that witch from the con.

It just appalls me how freaking rude some people can be!

Hope this'll make you feel a little better, I was at a used bookstore and found a HUGE magazine that's all N'Sync, with posters and a pic of two of them in the shower together, spitting mouthfuls of SOME ;) kind of liquid at each other. I'll get it mailed out soon!

Jenny

Re: Another person for me to slap silly!

[turps33.livejournal.com]

I SO wish I could have been there to give the old biddy a swift boot in the rear for you! Now, that's two people I gotta smack, her and that witch from the con

You're keeping score, thanks! I should have said something myself but I'm such a damn sap that I couldn't.

Hope this'll make you feel a little better, I was at a used bookstore and found a HUGE magazine that's all N'Sync, with posters and a pic of two of them in the shower together, spitting mouthfuls of SOME ;) kind of liquid at each other. I'll get it mailed out soon!

You're so good to me! You've just given me the biggest smile. Thanks hon, love you so much! And you've made me think of them in the shower now, with some kind of liquid being spit ;)

Re: Another person for me to slap silly!

[jencat004.livejournal.com]

Hey, who's to say what they WERE spitting? ;) lol

Hey, do I have to write Brennan and Jesse in a boy band to get you back of the Mutant track, wench?

Jenny