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Sep. 8th, 2003 04:31 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsSome people are beyond me.
I've just came home from picking Corey up from school, I walk to get him and most days I'm early so I wait on a bench near the local church. I was early today, so I was sitting just chilling, rummaging through my bag for my chap stick and this old woman comes up to me, really invading my personal space and says. 'Why did you get so big?' I mean WTF! I'm fat, I know that, I don't need random strangers commenting on it to my face. I didn't know what the hell to say. First impulse was to tell her to fuck off but I couldn't do that, so I mumbled something about always being like this. So she replies 'Are you sure?' Yeah, of course I'm bloody sure, I have to look at myself everyday.
What she expected me to say I don't know. Was I supposed to go, 'When I get upset I stuff my face with food because in my mind food is the ultimate comfort?'
So she's standing looking at me and I'm looking at my bag because I feel about an inch tall and she goes 'Oh okay, take care pet.' Right tell me to take care after you've just made me want to cry in the middle of the street then hit the nearest shop and buy as much chocolate that I can.
I don't know why some people have the mistaken belief that they can say what they like. I wish I wasn't such a sap that I could have told her to fuck off, but I know if I did I would have felt bad about it after.
So I'll say it here...Fuck off and leave me alone!
I've just came home from picking Corey up from school, I walk to get him and most days I'm early so I wait on a bench near the local church. I was early today, so I was sitting just chilling, rummaging through my bag for my chap stick and this old woman comes up to me, really invading my personal space and says. 'Why did you get so big?' I mean WTF! I'm fat, I know that, I don't need random strangers commenting on it to my face. I didn't know what the hell to say. First impulse was to tell her to fuck off but I couldn't do that, so I mumbled something about always being like this. So she replies 'Are you sure?' Yeah, of course I'm bloody sure, I have to look at myself everyday.
What she expected me to say I don't know. Was I supposed to go, 'When I get upset I stuff my face with food because in my mind food is the ultimate comfort?'
So she's standing looking at me and I'm looking at my bag because I feel about an inch tall and she goes 'Oh okay, take care pet.' Right tell me to take care after you've just made me want to cry in the middle of the street then hit the nearest shop and buy as much chocolate that I can.
I don't know why some people have the mistaken belief that they can say what they like. I wish I wasn't such a sap that I could have told her to fuck off, but I know if I did I would have felt bad about it after.
So I'll say it here...Fuck off and leave me alone!
Devising a comeback
Date: 2003-09-08 04:14 pm (UTC)As someone who goes out of my way to think of a *kind* explanation for whatever, (like, 'well, some people just have a slow metabolism'), I can't believe someone would say such a thing. But let's face it -- some people haven't the sense God gave a grape.
But telling people like that it's none of their business isn't enough. You've got to put *them* on the defensive, maybe make them cautious about opening their mouth again. Here's something that Ann Landers recommends. It works in any situation that someone makes stupid, thoughtless remarks -- your weight, James' disability, whatever. Practice out loud, in front of a mirror, until you can do it convincingly, naturally, automatically. The goal -- a look of astonishment on your face as you say, "What on *earth* makes you think that it's any of your business?"
That's it; should send them off with their tail between their legs. And the thing is, you're not attacking them, so they shouldn't be inclined to "fight back" and maybe make the situation escalate.
Good luck, and remember, *we* love you.
SW