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Jan. 8th, 2009 12:12 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsBand flesh is a hot topic again, and I've been thinking about that community for the last few days. I wasn't going to post for a few reasons, that most of my flist will have no idea what I'm going on about, that I'm very much the tiniest fish in the fandom, but mostly because it's something I don't tend to do. It's comfy sitting on my fence, I'll admit that.
The thing is though, this is the second time I've sat and watched a good friend be deeply hurt because of that comm, and there comes a time when you have to say something.
A little history to explain what helped form my opinions on anonymous communities/posts. I was around for the popslash hate post and I watched a lot of people I liked be torn to shreds, not just their stories, but them as people. I was there for the aftermath, where people stopped writing for the fandom and things weren't as shiny for a while. I'm not naive, I know the fandom wasn't/isn't all sparkly joy, but that didn't help when faced with such obvious hatred. I didn't understand why anyone would want to hate on someone like that, I still don't.
I've read a lot of posts and comments about BF and as someone who gets ridiculously intimidated at times I can see the appeal.of a place where you can chat about things without needing an attached name. Sometimes talking to anonymous strangers is just what you need, and the picspam and fic threads sound fun. So yeah, I can see the why people would like that aspect of it. But, to me the bad overshadows the good.
Copy pasting flocked posts, summarising flocked posts, bashing people because of who they are and not what they write, tearing into stories. It's crossing a line, big time. I have to think the majority of fleshers are there for the good parts of the comm, which is why I'm not defriending any that are on my flist. But I am saying here that I really dislike that community, that happens when you've had to watch someone you like and respect be hurt over and over because some people don't get that those names on a screen are actual people and no matter what people say, words do hurt. I think that kind of trash talking is cowardly and all kinds of wrong. It baffles me that some people actually think otherwise.
I don't flock much, but if you ever break a flock and share what I've said, you're gone from my friendslist. The same goes if I find out you've done that to anyone else. Nothing is truly private on the internet, but locks and filters are used for a reason, if you break those you're not someone I want to associate with.
The thing is though, this is the second time I've sat and watched a good friend be deeply hurt because of that comm, and there comes a time when you have to say something.
A little history to explain what helped form my opinions on anonymous communities/posts. I was around for the popslash hate post and I watched a lot of people I liked be torn to shreds, not just their stories, but them as people. I was there for the aftermath, where people stopped writing for the fandom and things weren't as shiny for a while. I'm not naive, I know the fandom wasn't/isn't all sparkly joy, but that didn't help when faced with such obvious hatred. I didn't understand why anyone would want to hate on someone like that, I still don't.
I've read a lot of posts and comments about BF and as someone who gets ridiculously intimidated at times I can see the appeal.of a place where you can chat about things without needing an attached name. Sometimes talking to anonymous strangers is just what you need, and the picspam and fic threads sound fun. So yeah, I can see the why people would like that aspect of it. But, to me the bad overshadows the good.
Copy pasting flocked posts, summarising flocked posts, bashing people because of who they are and not what they write, tearing into stories. It's crossing a line, big time. I have to think the majority of fleshers are there for the good parts of the comm, which is why I'm not defriending any that are on my flist. But I am saying here that I really dislike that community, that happens when you've had to watch someone you like and respect be hurt over and over because some people don't get that those names on a screen are actual people and no matter what people say, words do hurt. I think that kind of trash talking is cowardly and all kinds of wrong. It baffles me that some people actually think otherwise.
I don't flock much, but if you ever break a flock and share what I've said, you're gone from my friendslist. The same goes if I find out you've done that to anyone else. Nothing is truly private on the internet, but locks and filters are used for a reason, if you break those you're not someone I want to associate with.
