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Oct. 21st, 2018 05:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turpsWe've been to see Goosebumps 2 at the cinema today. It was pretty creepy, and the little girl and her dad who were sitting behind us actually left about a third of the way through it. They were cute, the dad telling her to just hold onto him if she got scared, and I kept hearing him ask if she was alright. But I guess it just got too much.
We've got a hire car atm, a white crossover which is pretty swish. But we had to pay the excess as the other insurance company are dragging their heals in responding to ours. James has a signed note from the other driver admitting fault, so we'll get the money back eventually. It's just a pain we've had to pull money out in the first place.
We went to visit my Auntie Irene yesterday. For background, I was close to her growing up, the same for my brother, and Kayleigh was almost half raised by my auntie and cousins. Then mam fell out with Irene and the whole family stopped talking. My aunt did try to reconnect, but last time she tried mam was drinking and it was this horrible scene and it was just easier not to make any contact, mam always saying if she ever found out we were talking to my aunt and our cousins she wouldn't ever forgive us. Then mam died, and the day after I went with Kayleigh to tell Irene. I can't even begin to describe how guilty we both felt doing so, but we also both felt that she deserved to be told her sister had died, and the way to do that was in person. Side story, my aunt was outside that day, and didn't recognise me at all when we arrived. She hugged Kayleigh, hugged her again when she said why we were there, and all the time I was standing like a lemon and being totally ignored. In the end Kayleigh had to refer to me by name, and I got my hug, After, Irene said she though I was Kayleigh's new girlfriend, so that was one vaguely humerous moment in what was a horrible guilt filled day.
We've been back often since then, and it's been lovely to reconnect with everyone. My aunt calls us lambs, and is such a warm woman who is this incredible feeder and pushes food on us every we visit. I've never left yet without taking home leftovers, yesterday it was a huge plate of mashed potato, a chicken breast and chicken sauce with vegetable, oh, and cake. My cousin had made a birthday cake for Kayleigh and my aunt had delivered it complete with candles and singing. Kayleigh was so embarrassed, but I think it's nice they have those traditions. I have to admit, it's nice to be looked after for a bit, too.
Anyway, what I'm mentioning it for is, my aunt told us she doesn't give funeral flowers and always like to give living plants, and since the funeral has been looking for the perfect plants. Yesterday she presented me and Kayleigh with a yellow rose bush and a set of beautiful terracotta glazed pots already planted with lilies that will flower around mam's birthday and the smaller pots filled with winter flowering bulbs. Chris got a set too, which I dropped off for him. Now I just need to find the perfect place for the rose bush. Maybe next to the bird bath that represents dad.
We've got a hire car atm, a white crossover which is pretty swish. But we had to pay the excess as the other insurance company are dragging their heals in responding to ours. James has a signed note from the other driver admitting fault, so we'll get the money back eventually. It's just a pain we've had to pull money out in the first place.
We went to visit my Auntie Irene yesterday. For background, I was close to her growing up, the same for my brother, and Kayleigh was almost half raised by my auntie and cousins. Then mam fell out with Irene and the whole family stopped talking. My aunt did try to reconnect, but last time she tried mam was drinking and it was this horrible scene and it was just easier not to make any contact, mam always saying if she ever found out we were talking to my aunt and our cousins she wouldn't ever forgive us. Then mam died, and the day after I went with Kayleigh to tell Irene. I can't even begin to describe how guilty we both felt doing so, but we also both felt that she deserved to be told her sister had died, and the way to do that was in person. Side story, my aunt was outside that day, and didn't recognise me at all when we arrived. She hugged Kayleigh, hugged her again when she said why we were there, and all the time I was standing like a lemon and being totally ignored. In the end Kayleigh had to refer to me by name, and I got my hug, After, Irene said she though I was Kayleigh's new girlfriend, so that was one vaguely humerous moment in what was a horrible guilt filled day.
We've been back often since then, and it's been lovely to reconnect with everyone. My aunt calls us lambs, and is such a warm woman who is this incredible feeder and pushes food on us every we visit. I've never left yet without taking home leftovers, yesterday it was a huge plate of mashed potato, a chicken breast and chicken sauce with vegetable, oh, and cake. My cousin had made a birthday cake for Kayleigh and my aunt had delivered it complete with candles and singing. Kayleigh was so embarrassed, but I think it's nice they have those traditions. I have to admit, it's nice to be looked after for a bit, too.
Anyway, what I'm mentioning it for is, my aunt told us she doesn't give funeral flowers and always like to give living plants, and since the funeral has been looking for the perfect plants. Yesterday she presented me and Kayleigh with a yellow rose bush and a set of beautiful terracotta glazed pots already planted with lilies that will flower around mam's birthday and the smaller pots filled with winter flowering bulbs. Chris got a set too, which I dropped off for him. Now I just need to find the perfect place for the rose bush. Maybe next to the bird bath that represents dad.
